The baby's mother goes to court tomorrow. I have no idea what they'll do, but it worries me to think that this child will go back to the mother and wind up in foster care again. Honestly, Matt and I really don't have a problem with her LEAVING if she goes to a good situation. I know he means it by the way he says things and I want to jump out of my skin saying "YES!!! EXACTLY!!!". And forget trying to call her by a different name. It just feels wrong for so many countless reasons and yet, we don't know what to do about mom's privacy. The baby has such an uncommon name and mom works with the public. If they continue to allow the mother visitation, it's going to be difficult for us to come to terms with the possibility of her going back to her mother. The mother's been an addict for too long. She's been clean for a year and gone back. She's already lost a child to drugs and continued to go back to using. She went to jail, stayed clean after coming out, and STILL went back to using. It's been at least 8 years that we know of.